All of Us Strangers poster

All of Us Strangers

2023 · Directed by Andrew Haigh
1h 45mRomanceDramaFantasy15
82
Fi1m score
87
Critics · 17
Audience · not yet

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Synopsis

Adam (Andrew Scott) is a screenwriter who lives alone near the top of a new tower block with almost nobody else in it. Looking for something to write about, he takes the train out to the house he grew up in and finds his parents (Claire Foy and Jamie Bell) inside, as they were before they died when he was a child, ready to hear about his life. He keeps going back. In the same weeks he lets Harry (Paul Mescal), a neighbour and one of the few other people in the building, into his flat and into his life. Andrew Haigh writes and directs, from a novel by Taichi Yamada.

Fi1m review

In a sentenceA ghost story where the ghosts make a cup of tea and ask if you have met anyone

Andrew Haigh sends Andrew Scott home to parents who died when he was a boy, and the scenes with Claire Foy and Jamie Bell are as good as anything he has made. The romance beside them is thinner, and the ending leans on the songs.

Andrew Haigh has made a ghost story in which nobody is frightened. Adam (Andrew Scott) is a screenwriter living alone near the top of a new tower block with almost nobody else in it. Looking for something to write about, he takes a train to the house he grew up in, and his parents are inside. They died when he was a boy; here they are, younger than he is now, asking whether he has eaten. Haigh, writing and directing from a novel by Taichi Yamada, treats this as the most ordinary thing in the world, and for an hour the film is as good as anything he has made.

Claire Foy and Jamie Bell are the reason. They play Mum and Dad, which is what the credits call them, as people from another decade who love their son and do not know what to do with the man he has become. In the kitchen Adam tells his mother he is gay, and Foy plays the next minute as a woman searching for something kind and coming up with the wrong words, one after another. We came apart in that scene, quietly, and it was her face that did it: not the disapproval but the fear underneath it, which is love with nowhere to go. Bell has a later scene about something heard through a bedroom door years ago, and he plays it with his eyes down, and hardly moves, and it is enough.

Jamie D. Ramsay shoots the two worlds so that you always know which one you are in. The flat is glass and grey, lit by a city that never seems to have anyone in it, and Adam is often small against a window. The house is lamplight and Christmas colours, with a haze on everything as if someone had breathed on the lens. Sarah Finlay’s production design keeps the house as it was left, down to the wallpaper and the records, and Sarah Blenkinsop puts Mum in a blouse and cardigan nobody has bought new since the 1980s. Jonathan Alberts cuts without establishing shots, so Adam falls asleep in one place and wakes in another and we stop asking how. The film would fall apart if it explained itself.

Paul Mescal’s Harry is the neighbour, and the other half of the film. Mescal is good at the loneliness under the charm, and the early scenes between the two men are slow and honest about how people who have been alone a long time get used to being touched. Scott is remarkable throughout; he has the stillness of a man who has learnt to want almost nothing, and he lets it crack a little at a time. But Harry is written thinner than the parents. He is there to be kind and a bit sad, and we learn about his life in a handful of lines while Adam’s takes up the whole film. Most critics have been carried past this. We noticed, and it is the gap between the film’s two halves.

Emilie Levienaise-Farrouch’s score is strings, held low, and it mostly stays out of the way. The songs do not. Haigh uses the pop of the decade Adam’s parents stopped in, and there is a stretch near the end, which we will not describe, where a record is asked to carry more than the writing has earned. We were moved, and we could feel the film deciding that we should be, which is not quite the same thing. One or two critics have called the ending sentimental. We would say it is a step softer than what came before, and the step shows.

Set against Haigh’s own films, this is the one where he lets go. Weekend kept two men in a flat and listened to them; 45 Years watched a marriage take a knock and stay standing. Both were dry. This is not, and it is braver for it, even where it goes soft. The consensus is warm and we are a little short of it, but only a little.

See it in a cinema if you can, where the silences in the kitchen are harder to get away from. It is 105 minutes and a 15, and you will want to ring somebody afterwards. Choose carefully who.

Critical consensus AI synthesised

87
Positive
15
Mixed
2
Negative
0

Most critics are moved by All of Us Strangers, and many say so without much reserve. The praise settles first on Andrew Scott, whose lead performance is described across the reviews as bare, honest and personal, and then on his scenes with Paul Mescal, which several critics treat as the film’s charge. Andrew Haigh’s direction is credited with keeping a ghost story about a man reunited with his dead parents from turning soft, and Claire Foy and Jamie Bell are singled out repeatedly for the parental scenes. The 1980s pop on the soundtrack gets mentions of its own. The spread is narrow but not unanimous. The New Yorker and Vulture both find the parental half stronger than the romance, which they think never quite settles into the rest of the film. /Film goes further and finds the whole thing too sentimental and emotionally tidy. The i Paper, otherwise admiring, notes some strain in the final act.

Empire
22 January 2024 · ★★★★★ · Alex Godfrey
100

Andrew Haigh delivers a flawless, brazenly personal film that aches and shimmers as a tender portrait of a fragile man reconnecting with lost parents and finding solace in a new relationship. Scott and Mescal’s chemistry is magical in this gorgeous, emotionally raw odyssey.

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Little White Lies
22 January 2024 · 4/5/5 · Hannah Strong
100

The critic calls it a supernova of a film and praises Haigh as a modern master. It singles out the electric chemistry between Scott and Mescal as atomic and the film’s ability to capture the catharsis of processing pain.

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Radio Times
23 January 2024 · ★★★★★ · Matt Glasby
100

The critic describes the film as both beautiful and haunting. It singles out Scott’s emotionally bare performance and Haigh’s elegant filmmaking that makes everyday observations feel profound.

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Time Out
30 November 2023 · ★★★★★ · Anna Bogutskaya
100

The critic hails it as a miraculously uncheesy study of loneliness, forgiveness and the power of love. It singles out the feverish, rapt and tender chemistry between Scott and Mescal.

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The AV Club
20 December 2023 · A · Murtada Elfadl
95

Haigh combines elements of budding romance and parental reconciliation for a cathartic story richer than his prior work, with stirring performances especially from Claire Foy that heal emotional wounds through sensitive storytelling.

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Los Angeles Times
20 December 2023 · Justin Chang
90*

The film is hailed as the year's best, capturing the dreamlike reunion with lost loved ones through a ghost story and gay romance. It excels in its emotional depth, performances, and exploration of family and queer identity.

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Cast

Ami Tredrea
Waitress
Sean Tizzard
Dad on train (uncredited)

Stills

Awards

International Cinephile Society Award for Best Actor, 2024

Won
International Cinephile Society Award for Best Actor

International Cinephile Society Award for Best Director, 2024

Nominated
International Cinephile Society Award for Best Director

International Cinephile Society Award for Best Ensemble, 2024

Won
International Cinephile Society Award for Best Ensemble

International Cinephile Society Award for Best Film, 2024

Nominated
International Cinephile Society Award for Best Film

International Cinephile Society Award for Best Supporting Actor, 2024

Won
International Cinephile Society Award for Best Supporting Actor

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