Are You There God? It's Me, Margaret. poster

Are You There God? It's Me, Margaret.

2023 · Directed by Kelly Fremon Craig
1h 46mComedyDramaPG
75
Fi1m score
78
Critics · 12
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Synopsis

Margaret Simon (Abby Ryder Fortson) is eleven, nearly twelve, when her parents Barbara (Rachel McAdams) and Herb (Benny Safdie) move her from New York to a house in the New Jersey suburbs, leaving her grandmother Sylvia (Kathy Bates) behind in the city. It is 1970. Her mother was raised Christian and her father Jewish, and they have decided Margaret will choose for herself, so her nightly conversations with God are addressed to nobody in particular. Over the road, Nancy Wheeler (Elle Graham) recruits her into a secret club with Janie (Amari Alexis Price) and Gretchen (Katherine Mallen Kupferer), where the subjects are bras, periods and boys. Kelly Fremon Craig writes and directs, from Judy Blume’s novel.

Fi1m review

In a sentenceFour girls chanting at their chests in a suburban bedroom, and it is the most serious thing anyone in the film does

Kelly Fremon Craig films Judy Blume’s novel with patience and a cast who never talk down to a twelve-year-old. It is warmer and gentler than the book, and the grown-ups get the better story; that is a small complaint about a good film.

Judy Blume’s novel came out in 1970 and has been read under the covers ever since. Kelly Fremon Craig, who wrote and directed, has kept it in its own decade, and she has kept the book’s habit of treating a twelve-year-old’s worries as exactly as important as the twelve-year-old thinks they are. The result is warm, funny and carefully made, and we liked it a good deal. It is also gentler than the book, and the adults end up with the better story, which we suspect was not the plan.

Margaret Simon (Abby Ryder Fortson) is eleven, nearly twelve, and living in New York when her parents announce a move to a house in the New Jersey suburbs. Her grandmother Sylvia (Kathy Bates) takes this as a personal injury. Her mother Barbara (Rachel McAdams) was raised Christian and her father Herb (Benny Safdie) is Jewish, and they have decided to raise her with no religion at all, so that when Margaret talks to God, as she does most nights, she is not sure who she is addressing. Within a day of arriving she is recruited by Nancy Wheeler (Elle Graham), the confident girl over the road, into a club of four whose business is bras, periods and boys.

Fortson is the reason the club scenes work. She plays Margaret as a girl who is watching everyone else for clues and is sure she is the only one without them, and she never asks to be found adorable. The bra-shopping scene, in a department store with McAdams and a saleswoman who has seen it all, is the funniest thing in the film, and we laughed out loud; then Fortson’s face in the mirror, wanting this and dreading it at once, took the laugh back. Elle Graham’s Nancy is a small tyrant played without malice, and Amari Alexis Price and Katherine Mallen Kupferer, as Janie and Gretchen, make the other two feel like girls who go on existing when Margaret is not looking.

McAdams gives the performance we kept thinking about afterwards. Barbara has moved to the suburbs to become the sort of mother she thinks she is supposed to be, and McAdams plays the effort: the committees, the bright voice on the doorstep, the moments alone in the kitchen when the voice drops. Kathy Bates plays Sylvia as a woman who regards New Jersey as a foreign country and her granddaughter as the only reason to cross the border. There is a scene between McAdams and Fortson in the second half, which we will not describe, that moved us more than a PG comedy about training bras had any right to. The two of them simply stop pretending for a minute, and nobody underlines it.

Tim Ives shoots the house and the school in soft daylight and the browns and mustards of the period, and keeps the camera at Margaret’s height often enough that the adults loom a little. Steve Saklad’s production design puts a great deal of wood veneer and shag carpet on screen and never winks at it. Ann Roth dresses Nancy in clothes that match and Margaret in clothes that nearly do, which tells you the friendship. Hans Zimmer wrote the music, and it is mostly quiet piano that stays out of the way, which is not what his name usually promises. Nick Moore and Oona Flaherty cut it to 106 minutes and are content to hold on a face while it decides what to feel.

The gentleness is the problem, where there is one. Blume’s Margaret can be petty and, on one occasion, cruel about a classmate the others have decided to despise. The film keeps the incident but hurries through it, and forgives Margaret before we have quite registered what she did. Her questions about God are asked with real seriousness and then answered with a hug. Barbara’s story, which Craig has expanded well beyond the book, has an adult sadness the children’s story cannot match, and there were stretches where we caught ourselves waiting for the mother to come back.

Craig’s previous film, The Edge of Seventeen, had a heroine who was rude and funny and hard to like, and it was better for it. This one is kinder and a little less sharp. Watch it with a daughter of about the right age, or with whoever lent you the book. The girls do their chest exercises with total conviction, and so, to its credit, does the film.

Critical consensus AI synthesised

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The reviews for Kelly Fremon Craig’s adaptation of Judy Blume’s novel are warm and closely bunched, with most critics landing on four stars or thereabouts and none turning against it. The praise gathers around Abby Ryder Fortson as Margaret, whose performance is described again and again as open-hearted, expressive and raw, and around Rachel McAdams and Kathy Bates as the mother and grandmother. Critics also credit the film with treating puberty and religious doubt frankly and without condescension, and several say it feels as relevant now as the 1970 book did. The reservations come from a small minority and are about caution rather than craft. Variety finds the film sanitised beside Blume’s candid original, turning Margaret into a role model rather than a flawed twelve-year-old, and Vulture thinks the parents’ stories are more compelling than the daughter’s. The Guardian, more mildly, calls it sweet-natured but a little dated and inconsequential.

Los Angeles Times
26 April 2023 · Katie Walsh
90*

The critic calls the film as lovely, heartfelt, and radical as the original novel, crediting director Kelly Fremon Craig for capturing the nuances of adolescence, family, religion, and sexuality. It singles out the lived-in performances and the story’s enduring relevance amid contemporary debates over bodily autonomy.

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The AV Club
26 April 2023 · B+ · Leigh Monson
83

The review calls it a charming, funny, and heartfelt adaptation that captures the essence of the novel with excellent performances, especially from the young lead and supporting cast.

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Little White Lies
17 May 2023 · 4/4/4 · Weiting Liu
80

Craig delivers a sweet, humane take on the classic novel that expands the source while staying true to its themes of identity and belonging. The intergenerational bonds among Margaret, her mother and grandmother stand out for their warmth and insight.

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Radio Times
★★★★ · Emma Simmonds
80

Blume’s novel is adapted with affection and wit into a big, warm hug of a film that feels relevant despite its 1970s setting. The performances, particularly the young lead and supporting turns from McAdams and Bates, are singled out for bringing kindness and understanding to the story.

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The Hollywood Reporter
20 April 2023 · Lovia Gyarkye
80*

The critic praises the charming, heartwarming adaptation as a respectful love letter to fans of the book, highlighting the strong cast and emotional depth in portraying puberty and family life.

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The Telegraph
18 May 2023 · ★★★★ · Ed Power
80

This affectionate adaptation is a delightful, sweet coming-of-age story and valentine to innocent 1970s adolescence that modern teens will never experience, with strong performances and Seventies nostalgia. It has an inevitably sad edge but avoids being cloying.

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Cast

Abby Ryder Fortson
Margaret Simon
Rachel McAdams
Barbara Simon
Kathy Bates
Sylvia Simon
Elle Graham
Nancy Wheeler
Benny Safdie
Herbert Simon
Amari Alexis Price
Janie Loomis
Kate MacCluggage
Mrs. Jan Wheeler

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